Losing Sight of the Shore
“One does not discover new lands without consenting to losing sight of the shore for a very long time” ~ Andre Gide
During my visit to the US over the last few weeks I read the quote above and it pretty much knocked me over with the relevance of it. I’ve started my new business and it is so incredibly rewarding to be helping people in this way. At the same time I realized while I was back that I’m still hanging on in some way to my life there. This was a bit like a bucket of cold water being dumped on me. I’ve set sail so to speak but I haven’t “consented to losing sight of the shore for a very long time”. I’m keeping my other life/career there in view. Being divided and indecisive on any level impacts our ability to be effective. It slows us down. My old identity is tough to let go of. There are kind people telling me to come back to that career, how good I am at it, that there are job openings if I’m interested, etc…all so incredibly humbling and flattering and alluring. That’s my comfort zone, that’s what I know I’m good at. But my passion, my dream, is coaching now. I will give this career my complete focus and commitment.
Andy Andrews’ book, “The Travelers Gift”, was a gift to me from a senior program manager many years ago. The “fourth decision for success” in the book is “I have a decided heart”. One of the passages I underlined from this section many years ago is this: “Most people fail at whatever they attempt because of an undecided heart. Should I? Should I not? Go forward? Go back? Success (in whatever you do) requires the emotional balance of a committed heart. When confronted with a challenge, the committed heart will search for a solution. The undecided heart searches for an escape.” And then these: “My hopes, my passions, my vision for the future are my very existence. A person without a dream never had a dream come true.”….”I will not wait. I am passionate about my vision for the future. My course has been charted. My destiny assured. I have a decided heart.”
This isn't to say that part of my looking for a solution if faced with say a financial challenge wouldn't be doing both - coaching and my previous career. That's the beauty of it though, you never give up your dream...you just get creative when you need to. But I realize now that I have to completely let go & lose sight of the shore that is my previous life. And this doesn't mean the people, I will always love the people and hope to never lose "sight" of them whether I get to see them with my eyes daily or not.
How about you? What is your dream, your passion? Do you have a decided heart? Is an undecided heart keeping you from a dream you have for your career or other area in your life?