Setting Boundaries This Holiday Season: When to Say "No" or "Not Now"
The holidays are upon us and things are about to get very hectic. As a matter of fact, for most, it's already started. The holidays can be wonderful, but they can also be incredibly stressful. Your social calendar and "to-do" list is much longer. We find ourselves spending time with certain family members or around other stressed out people that can make even the saintliest among us lose it. It's important that we set boundaries so we don't wake up January 1 sick, exhausted, broke and wondering what just happened. I found this Psychology Today article "When to Say 'No' or 'Not Now'"to capture an approach in a short, easy to apply manner. Another great bit of advice I got for those times when you find yourself on the spot with a request to do something, attend an event, lead that committee, etc. is to say some appropriate variation of this: "Thank you for thinking of me, let me check my calendar and I'll get back to you by Monday." It's important to provide a commitment on when you will respond, both for yourself and the person asking. But this gives you the time you need to take a step back and use what you'll read in this article.
What techniques or tips do you have for setting and maintaining boundaries?
I wish you and your family a very happy & healthy 2013 Holiday Season!!